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Regardless of whether you're in a room or even in a party, an interesting discussion might end abruptly, with hurt or even upset people and no one wiser for the exchange. Although you could be really interested to understand and learn alternative perspectives, you have to first develop the skill of asking open ended questions. You can frequently find these on Bibles like Bibles for Children.
Well meaning people can spoil anyone's possibilities of learning more about a topic of social debate, mainly because they don't have the ability. Effective and careful utilization of rhetoric, in addition to an open ended question strategy, can open the door to a lively and in depth discussion from which everybody benefits.
For example, let's imagine you're at a social gathering, excited to get to know some new and even remarkable people. Debatable subjects are often, on some level, sensitive in nature. You have family members in the breakaway state of Russia therefore have some other views of the reality of the current Russian reputation. You start a conversation with a history professor with the this remark. "I think it's just awful how the Russians put troops into Georgia, hurting innocent people! What is your opinion?"
If you don't know the disposition or statements of that professor, you have put your foot in your mouth. You have initiated the conversation by declaring your opinion in advance. What if that professor is a Russian immigrant, with strong reactions on the Russian situation? You've successfully divested yourself of understanding some important historical facts that might shed some light on the scenario. Once this knowledgeable person gets offended, the conversation may be short and uninformative.
On the other hand, provided the same scenario, posing an open ended question doesn't imply disagreement or prejudice from you. You might ask, "You're a history professor and I was interested to learn more about the matter in the Georgian conflict. What is behind this?"
This alternate method does not express your position, besides one of ignorance. While the professor could have a bias, she or he will not think of you as an enemy and will be flattered that you value the things they know. It's immaterial whether this individual concurs with you. The objective is to understand what they think and know, how they arrived at their conclusions and become more informed at the same time.
Another illustration of the open ended question, used in a purely social perspective might concern a debatable film. "Have you seen Michael Moore's 'Sicko'? I believe that guy's a nut and disgracefully unpatriotic, right?" You've expressed your position, placing anybody you are questioning in a potentially awkward lurch. Not many people of the contrary perspective will probably be rude sufficient enough to tell you off. Another loss for you!
Why don't you consider, "Have you seen 'Sicko'? I was curious about his view on the health care situation. It's getting plenty of push." These kinds of examples on the use of open ended questions can be a bit heavy handed, but intentionally so. You will see the need for learning, without the need of offending.
Well meaning people can spoil anyone's possibilities of learning more about a topic of social debate, mainly because they don't have the ability. Effective and careful utilization of rhetoric, in addition to an open ended question strategy, can open the door to a lively and in depth discussion from which everybody benefits.
For example, let's imagine you're at a social gathering, excited to get to know some new and even remarkable people. Debatable subjects are often, on some level, sensitive in nature. You have family members in the breakaway state of Russia therefore have some other views of the reality of the current Russian reputation. You start a conversation with a history professor with the this remark. "I think it's just awful how the Russians put troops into Georgia, hurting innocent people! What is your opinion?"
If you don't know the disposition or statements of that professor, you have put your foot in your mouth. You have initiated the conversation by declaring your opinion in advance. What if that professor is a Russian immigrant, with strong reactions on the Russian situation? You've successfully divested yourself of understanding some important historical facts that might shed some light on the scenario. Once this knowledgeable person gets offended, the conversation may be short and uninformative.
On the other hand, provided the same scenario, posing an open ended question doesn't imply disagreement or prejudice from you. You might ask, "You're a history professor and I was interested to learn more about the matter in the Georgian conflict. What is behind this?"
This alternate method does not express your position, besides one of ignorance. While the professor could have a bias, she or he will not think of you as an enemy and will be flattered that you value the things they know. It's immaterial whether this individual concurs with you. The objective is to understand what they think and know, how they arrived at their conclusions and become more informed at the same time.
Another illustration of the open ended question, used in a purely social perspective might concern a debatable film. "Have you seen Michael Moore's 'Sicko'? I believe that guy's a nut and disgracefully unpatriotic, right?" You've expressed your position, placing anybody you are questioning in a potentially awkward lurch. Not many people of the contrary perspective will probably be rude sufficient enough to tell you off. Another loss for you!
Why don't you consider, "Have you seen 'Sicko'? I was curious about his view on the health care situation. It's getting plenty of push." These kinds of examples on the use of open ended questions can be a bit heavy handed, but intentionally so. You will see the need for learning, without the need of offending.
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